What does coaching with Benny look like?

Short answer: The method is free on this site; coaching is having Benny run it with you. That means daily check-ins, real-time judgment on every text before you send it, attachment-style diagnosis, and someone who has seen hundreds of these situations telling you the truth at 11pm when you're about to break no-contact.

What's included

• A full diagnostic of your situation — both attachment styles, what went wrong, and whether this is worth pursuing at all.
• Your no-contact duration and daily plan, tuned to your ex's attachment style.
• Every message reviewed before it's sent — the re-entry message and everything after.
• Daily check-ins through the whole process. The hard part isn't knowing the rules; it's 11pm when you want to break them.

What it costs

Coaching is a serious commitment on both sides and enrollment happens by conversation, not a checkout page. Reach out and Benny will tell you exactly what it involves.

How to start

DM “MAGNET” to @bennylichtenwalner on Instagram — tell him this site sent you and describe your situation in a few sentences.

How do I start working with Benny?

DM the word "MAGNET" to @bennylichtenwalner on Instagram. You'll have a short conversation about your situation, and if it's a fit, you'll get the enrollment details.

Do I need coaching to use the method?

No. The complete method is published free on this site. Coaching is for people who want real-time judgment on their specific situation and accountability through the hard days.

Will Benny take anyone as a client?

No. If the relationship was abusive or pursuing it would be bad for you, he'll tell you not to try — that policy is part of the method itself.